INTJ / Cancer
Who is an Architect (INTJ)?
Architects are individuals with the Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Judging personality traits. They tend to be intelligent and competent people with high expectations on both themselves and people around them. Being independent thinkers, architects are often viewed as effective problem solvers.
This makes for an interesting combination, since at times there are internal battles between heart and mind. The Architect being a very rational thinker, always looking for logical explanations and with a sharp, delightfully sarcastic sense of humor, as well as the Cancer’s highly intuitive, emotional and sentimental traits, makes for a complex and deep personality, not always fully in tune with itself. These people lack patience and dislike conflict. They rather retreat internally than confront another person and thus enjoys working alone more often that as part of a group. They have little patience for frivolity, distractions, or idle gossip and prefer the safe harbor of home, family and a select group of close friends. Most of all they enjoy socializing at home in a more controlled environment.
In love the Architect/Cancer always choose a person who is able to understand them without much verbal communication and a shared daily routine. Their affection won’t last long with flaky or unreliable partners. They are easily frustrated by romance. Especially in the early stages of a relationship, they may struggle to understand what’s going on and how to behave. And if their relationships fall apart for reasons they don’t understand, they can become cynical about matters of the heart, even questioning the importance of love and connection.
These people are usually a bit shy and need a lot of reassurance in their relationship. They need to feel needed and appreciated and will then bloom into a creative and generous partner. Sometimes having a hard time expressing emotions to others, this personality will show tendencies towards self-pity and get mood swings if not feeling loved themselves. This means that a lot of the communication skills are up to you as a partner, since they are also quick to avoid conflict and are therefore one of the most challenging people to get to know. The grand prize at the end of the rainbow though, is a fiercely dedicated and compassionate partner! They are good listeners and great at reading between the lines. So try showing how you feel, rather than saying loving words “just because”, this person will feel the difference and respond accordingly. And if you feel like you have needs that aren’t met, focus on being straight forward and clear about them and your Architect/Cancer will most likely do everything in their power to make you happy.
As a career these personalities often gravitate towards teaching, a profession where both their minds and highly intuitive, emotional skills are well needed. They might also choose a path in medicine or law with great success. Architect/Cancer effortlessly pick up on energies and read a room which is incredibly useful in all of these lines of work. Trying to read this person on the other hand, is a very difficult task. They don’t tend to broadcast their every emotion or thought, and they are usually very calm and chill... until they’re provoked, then the claws come out.