ENTJ / Scorpio
Who is a Commander (ENTJ)?
Commanders are individuals with the Extraverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Judging personality traits. They tend to be charismatic, direct, and analytical people who prefer to focus on the bigger picture. Being natural born leaders, commanders are often perceived as assertive and uninhibited people who won't hesitate expressing their opinion.
These people are very career-focused, and fit into the corporate world quite naturally. They are constantly scanning their environment for potential problems which they can turn into solutions. They generally see things from a long-range perspective, and are usually successful at identifying plans to turn problems around - especially problems of a corporate nature. They are usually successful in the business world, because they are so driven to leadership. They're tireless in their efforts on the job, and driven to visualize where an organization is headed. For these reasons, they are natural corporate leaders. There is not much room for error in the world of the Commander/Scorpio. They dislike to see mistakes repeated, and have no patience with inefficiency. They may become quite harsh when their patience is tried in these respects, because they are not naturally tuned in to people's feelings, and more than likely don't believe that they should tailor their judgments in consideration for people's feelings.
They fear vulnerability. The feeling of being known. Darkness can be a hiding place. Pain can be an excuse not to trust. When they open up, it gives other people power over them, and they need to be in control. The illusion of control over themselves and other people is the only thing that makes them feel secure in the face of an otherwise uncertain world. They are protective of both themselves and others and will rarely allow themselves to get hurt. This means that they are usually quite secretive and rarely show their feelings. They will protect their friends quite fiercely and most tend to give great advice, given that they love knowing how our minds work. Because they can keep secrets, they tend to be valued deeply by their friends and are very trustworthy.
As in other areas of their lives, Commander/Scorpios approach dating and relationships with a set of goals and a plan to achieve them, and proceed to do so with impressive energy and enthusiasm. People with this personality combo are in it to win, and will gladly take leading roles in relationships from the start, assuming personal responsibility for how smoothly things go and working actively to ensure a mutually rewarding experience. Romantic relationships are a serious business, and they are in it for the long haul. They are the happiest in the relationship when their partners admire them for their competence and intellectual ability. They love it when their partners ask for their advice or comments, which they will helpfully give. Acts of service or thoughtful gifts are nice for them, but it doesn’t touch them as much as showing admiration does. Their directness in establishing immediate intimacy causes people to fall for them quickly, but it takes them a while to open themselves up to someone enough to really fall in love. They think that love is the capacity for pain. Love means partially relinquishing some of their self-control and this is especially hard for a Commander/Scorpio. When they do let someone in, they fall in love completely. They can be fiercely possessive. They want to learn everything about you. They want to be around you as much as possible. They are frighteningly fast at getting attached.
Although they are not naturally tuned into other people's feelings, these individuals frequently have very strong sentimental streaks. Often these sentiments are very powerful to them, although they will likely hide it from general knowledge, believing the feelings to be a weakness. Because the world of feelings and values is not where they naturally function, they may sometimes make value judgments and hold onto submerged emotions which are ill-founded and inappropriate, and will cause them problems - sometimes rather serious problems.