ENTJ / Capricorn
Who is a Commander (ENTJ)?
Commanders are individuals with the Extraverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Judging personality traits. They tend to be charismatic, direct, and analytical people who prefer to focus on the bigger picture. Being natural born leaders, commanders are often perceived as assertive and uninhibited people who won't hesitate expressing their opinion.
Commander/Capricorn are constantly competing with themselves. They do want praise, though. Not adulation, just praise. Praise is a simple acknowledgment of a job well done. Praise is a pat on the back. They use this as validation to compensate for general feelings of incompetence and inferiority. They plow through adversity with blinders on until they reach success. They are masters of discipline. The wringing of the hands, the constant reminders, the exacting structure, the ever-increasing goals, the tidal wave of self-criticism that lasts forever. They are the ultimate perfectionist. They can be so absorbed in their own internal monologue that it becomes impossible to get them to look away from themselves. Commander/Capricorns are often called “workaholics.” They are incredibly pragmatic. They are rule followers with a highly developed moral compass. From a young age it is impressed upon them that their whole sense of worth and meaning is based on their ability to hunker down and force their way to the finish. This turns them into achievement junkies. Their drive to succeed is a reflection of their fear of failure. The most stressful time in their life is when they question their own authority. When they are in a position of power, they are most stable. When they’re put in a position where they have to cater to someone else’s agenda, they can become a little unhinged.
There is not much room for error in the world of the Commander/Capricorn. They dislike to see mistakes repeated, and have no patience with inefficiency. They may become quite harsh when their patience is tried in these respects, because they are not naturally tuned in to people's feelings, and more than likely don't believe that they should tailor their judgments in consideration for people's feelings. They, like many types, have difficulty seeing things from outside their own perspective. Unlike other types, these people naturally have little patience with people who do not see things the same way as them. They need to consciously work on recognizing the value of other people's opinions, as well as the value of being sensitive towards people's feelings. In the absence of this awareness, they will be a forceful, intimidating and overbearing individual.
Commander/Capricorns try hard to be good at whatever they attempt. This can be dispassionate, maybe mechanical. They may view sex as a math equation. Slightly disconnected from carnal undercurrents, but generally responsive to criticism. Sex and romance are seen as a game of competition. Sex is not a time for pursuing feelings, but rather a game of skill. In the game of love, the winner is determined by the ability of one person to fulfill the other person’s fantasy. They are sophisticated lovers that have a good sense of humor and know how to be gentle and nurturing when the situation calls for it. They are slow to lose interest and can be a little too intense at times. Even though they are intellectual and enjoy intense logical debates, they struggle when they have to deal with emotions. In love, they desire intellectual stimulation and friendship above all - and in partners they search for those that are not just lovers, but best friends too. A relationship with this personality combo can be filled with surprises; their love of life means that yours too will be fun, exciting and unusual.
They genuinely enjoy leading their teams forward as they implement their plans and goals. They couldn’t do this if they were plagued by self-doubt – they trust their abilities, make known their opinions, and believe in their capacities as leaders. Nor do they give up when the going gets tough – Commander/Capricorn strive to achieve their goals, but really nothing is quite as satisfying to them as rising to the challenge of each obstacle in their run to the finish line.