INFJ / Virgo
Who is an Advocate (INFJ)?
Advocates are individuals with the Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling and Judging personality traits. They tend to be gentle, complex and intuitive people who enjoy expressing themselves both artistically and creatively. Highly observant of their surroundings, advocates are extremely skillful at reading and understanding other people.
These people can seem very calm on the surface but there is much going on under the surface. Always deep in thought, they are calculating and assessing events and people around them. Their eagerness to understand means that they do have a tendency to jump to conclusions. As long as they feel secure and their needs in terms of love and affection are met, they can be perfectly happy to be alone. They sometimes enjoy their alone time more than socializing with others, as this can help relieve their more turbulent, anxious internal lives. Being so detail-oriented, they can often be very selfcritical. Their potential for perfectionism thankfully usually can be relieved with hectic activity - they find peace in their pursuit of improvement.
They place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, they operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, they put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in them not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Some people are visionaries while others are down-to-earth problem solvers, but these people manage to straddle the line between both identities—and they usually succeed masterfully. They are insightful thinkers who see through situations and people effectively and enjoy developing practical strategies for action.
It takes Advocate/Virgos a while to fall in love. They generally don’t like to submit themselves to large sways of passion. They like to have control over their reality, and the emotional intensity mirrors the feeling of chaos. Advocate/Virgos tend to be more pessimistic about love than others. They’re cynical about romanticism. They know that love is a fickle, fragile, ephemeral thing. They suspect that love might not be real at all. But when they finally feel love, it’s not just love— it’s like a homecoming. It’s like they’ve finally found a place where they belong. It’s like they found a way to love themselves. The real problem is that they are looking for an experience outside of reality. Something that is not attainable in the material world. They believe that the love they’re after exists on some higher plane. And they’re not wrong. It’s just that how they go about it is a little flawed. It’s not like they’re incapable of finding love, it’s just that they’re looking in the wrong place. The real love they’re looking for is inside of themselves. They need to learn to love themselves. They need to make themselves the center of their universe. They need to understand that they are worthy of love.
Despite their loving and sensitive natures, they have a tendency to close themselves off from the world and don’t give people the chance to know them or see the wonderful qualities they possess. Even in their relations with family and trusted friends, these people can be enigmatic. When they are feeling frustrated or introspective, they may retreat from social contact without so much as a word of explanation, which can throw others for a loop.