ISFJ / Scorpio
Who is a Defender (ISFJ)?
Defenders are individuals with the Introverted, Sensing, Feeling and Judging personality traits. They tend to be humble, hard-working, and enthusiastic people who prefer to focus on the details, rather than the bigger picture. Emotionally orientated, defenders are sensitive to other people's feelings and have a deep understanding of their own.
These people are loyal AF and the most amazing friends. Because they value authenticity above everything, they always have a roster of fascinating people surrounding them and are the best at curating guest lists for parties. Because they value their friends and loved ones just for being who they are, they create spaces where everyone can relax and be themselves. Defender/Scorpios are also the biggest cheerleaders of their inner circle and always fight for what they believe. Defender/Scorpios really hate change. And though this works in their favor when it comes to building solid relationships and job stability, they can be paralyzed when something doesn’t go their way. They want to be the best kind of control freaks (who are always in the right and never stepping too hard on anyone else’s toes) but sometimes can come off as brooding or sore losers when they don't get what they want. They hate to admit defeat.
Defender/Scorpio live in a world that is concrete and kind. They are truly warm and kind-hearted, and want to believe the best of people. They value harmony and cooperation, and are likely to be very sensitive to other people's feelings. People value the them for their consideration and awareness, and their ability to bring out the best in others by their firm desire to believe the best. They also have a rich inner world that is not usually obvious to observers. They constantly take in information about people and situations that is personally important to them, and store it away. This tremendous store of information is usually startlingly accurate, because the they’ve an exceptional memory about things that are important to their value systems. It would not be uncommon for them to remember a particular facial expression or conversation in precise detail years after the event occurred, if the situation made an impression on them.
A Defender/Scorpio in love does not respect a weak lover, preferring someone that knows their mind and heart. Although typically they may get accused of being controlling, they are really just trying to make everything okay for everyone. A Defender/Scorpio in love is very eager to please and they are very loving once they love you. They will literally sacrifice themselves to ensure your happiness often putting your needs above their own. This applies in sex as well. Bring on the fantasies! They eagerly explore nuances and details of love and love making and will likely love to hear details of your sexual experience. Simply as a way of getting to know you more. They prefer "one on one" quiet dates where the conversation can run freely and without interruption. Fireside dates, quiet dinners at home or in intimate restaurants, or a scenic drive are easy dates that will entice them. Basically they need less fluff as they are mostly just interested in YOU, not the surroundings. They can quickly see through BS so if you claim to know about something, you better actually know about it.
They respond to facts and concrete evidence presented in a sequential, step-by-step manner. Refrain from sharing abstract theories or big ideas that do not seem to have immediate application. Doing so only confuses these people as to how to proceed. Even if you do, break it down for them into a doable step-by-step manner and be organized in your presentation of the information. They respond to positive feedback and encouraging words, and they need to feel supported. It may not seem much to you, but a kind word from you can give them fuel to complete a task and build a better relationship with you. They need time to consider and reflect upon external events; linking it to their experiences. Hence, you have to give them more time in considering a new decision or requesting a response or making a change. They have to look back at what has worked before to give you a thoughtful response.
Repress their feelings