ISFJ / Gemini
Who is a Defender (ISFJ)?
Defenders are individuals with the Introverted, Sensing, Feeling and Judging personality traits. They tend to be humble, hard-working, and enthusiastic people who prefer to focus on the details, rather than the bigger picture. Emotionally orientated, defenders are sensitive to other people's feelings and have a deep understanding of their own.
These peopl remind us to see the world with childlike curiosity. Interested in a wide variety of subjects and activities you’ll never get bored around these people. They are characteristically humble and unassuming, and rarely call attention to themselves. They can often be found offering assistance to others in a modest, understated way. They are loyal and hardworking, and often commit themselves to tasks and projects with the aim of being helpful to their families, friends, and communities. They are typically involved in social groups, but do not want the spotlight: they are more likely to be found behind the scenes, working diligently to fulfill their role. They are oriented to relationships, but can be reserved with new people. They rarely disclose personal information quickly. They tend to be focused and aware of their surroundings, and relate details from their own personal experience. They often converse in terms of what has happened to them and what they have seen first-hand. They are compassionate listeners, and typically remember details about people. They often enjoy hearing the facts about others in the process of making a connection.
Being full of new ideas, and quick with words, they are often natural journalist, creatives, or writers. They are able to express themselves easily as well as handle ideas and thoughts with clarity - meaning that they often make for great mediators when there are misunderstandings. Furthermore, their dualistic nature means that they can see many sides of a situation. They aren’t content in watching the world pass by them as a passive observer, they must live within it. They are sometimes difficult to truly know, as they are multi-faceted. Their adaptability will sometimes mean that they themselves have a hard time pinning down who they really are. They do love their family, but can have problems with more serious siblings and parents who don't understand their creative and unusual natures. They can however be the glue that keeps a family together, and push their more reserved family members to push themselves in creative terms.
Defender/Geminis are very intellectual yet light enough that there is fun to be had on any topic. Loving a Defender/ Gemini means valuing them and the relationship more than always being right. This will smooth things over when they get too proud to admit they’re wrong and they will relent and be cuddly and appreciative in return. There can be undercurrents of insecurity in them that fuel all that moody passion. They just need to know they are adored and accepted and then the path is opened for a fulfilling passionate partnership.
These people are known for their terrific work ethic, but over time this positive trait can transmute into workaholism and leave them so overloaded that they lose sight of everything else. They can be driven to distraction by their perfectionist tendencies, and even on those rare occasions when they manage to tear themselves away from the office and return home for a while, they will continue to obsess over their latest project or assignment, leaving them too distracted and preoccupied to enjoy their free time. They need a lot of positive feedback, and admitting this need certainly shows vulnerability, but if that vulnerability is well handled, it creates the deep bonds that Defender/Gemini look for.